How Mutual Friends Can Help You Get Your Ex Back

You and your significant other have broken up and you feel lost without them. You want to get your ex back in your life. This is an absolutely understandable feeling. Nonetheless you have applied all the right rules to life after a breakup in the hopes that he or she might come back. Yes, you can get your ex back. People do it everyday and everywhere. Getting your ex back is absolutely possible and you can be one of these fortunate individuals.

You’ve cut off contact with them, you’ve tried to keep yourself busy, and you’ve even made new friends so that you can begin having new adventures. All of these things are exactly what you should be doing. There is, however, a little lesser-known way to raise the stakes and really get your ex to notice you and want you back. That way is by using mutual friends to your advantage.

At first, avoiding mutual friends was important because you didn’t want to bring up old feelings and start crying to them about your pain. But now that you’ve taken some steps to getting your ex back, the right way, you can now reintroduce those mutual friends back into your life. In order for this to work in your advantage you must follow these simple rules. If you stick within these rules, you’ll have your ex back begging to take you back.

1. Never ever complain about your ex in front of them.

When you are around your mutual friends, they will want to know how you’re doing and how you’ve been. Always keep your responses on the positive side. By showing them that you have nothing bad to say about you ex will prove to them that you are well balanced, happy, and definitely not looking for sympathy. Believe me, when your ex finds out that you didn’t use your meeting with the mutual friends as a self-pity party, it will certainly peak their interest in you.

2. Try to look as good as possible.

Hopefully you’ve used the breakup period as a time to reinvent yourself. Maybe you’ve taken an extra class a week at the gym or you’ve been going to beach a lot more often. Believe me when I tell you that you’re newly tanned and fit and tanned body will not go unnoticed. Mutual friends will not being able to keep themselves from rubbing it in to your ex what he/she is missing out on.

Now that you know a few things you can do to use mutual friends to your advantage is getting your ex back there are a few things you should NEVER do.

For instance, whatever you do, do not flirt with any of his or her friends. Sure your mutual friends will pass on the message that you were flirting with someone else but it will only make you appear to be desperate unfortunately. You will not get your ex back by doing it.

Also, never include yourself in plans that they may be discussing that include your ex. If they begin discussing plans that involve your ex, politely volunteer the information that you wish you could join them but you have important plans with so and so. If you want to get your ex back it is important to appear as if you have no real desire to spend time with her or him. This will all come off as cool and casual which will make your ex want you back in a bad way.